Welcome to my blogs! I am so happy that you’re here! I am Mary-Jeanette Smith and I go by MJ. I am an inspirational writer, counselor, and speaker.
Let’s face it, we all want to be loved and accepted. My journey has culminated in me answering the call to help others to heal. Some of us talk about manifesting destiny, but without transformation there can be no manifestation. That’s to say that without submitting to God’s process, what we manifest may not be God’s intended purpose for our lives. One, you were created for purpose; two, God intended it (see my HOME page next). “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ says the LORD. ‘They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope'” (Jeremiah 29:11, NLT). Imagine if hurting people manifested the chaos within without first being transformed. It’s a sobering thought, but unfortunately it happens and always to someone’s detriment. As you just read, God never intended such disasters.
For the most part, however, people who’ve been wounded merely exist with their pain, choosing various cultural methods of escape from their suffering. For me, I folded in on myself, self-rejecting, which led to self abuse and volatile romantic relationships. When the abuse became life threatening God rescued me through a miraculous series of events.
“So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you” (Romans 12:1-2, MSG, emphasis mine).
I promise you that God is more concerned about you than what he can do through you. Let him transform you before you attempt to manifest destiny. In order to discover and fulfill your Godly purpose, you must first be transformed by the renewing of your mind. From this transformed state you can then manifest Godly purpose. Anything else would be a counterfeit platform for destiny. God is omniscient, talk to him and watch him lead you straight to destiny. He is omnipresent, everywhere and always with you. He is omnipotent, there is nothing too hard for him.
I had to go through some grueling yet fruitful experiences in my life to get to the place that I have. That cultivation process has led to me completing two powerful books, Making Heaven My Home and Living Affirmed: Walking Confidently in Your Divine Purpose. While I thought my four college degrees would be used specifically in those fields, it turns out that they were to create the platform from which I write for God—for you. Before I got here, the painful moments of my past had left me with warped beliefs about my future, including doubts that I could be of help to anyone. But through God’s love, grace, and counsel my wounds have been healed and here I am to help you. “But because God was so gracious, so very generous, here I am. And I’m not about to let his grace go to waste” (1 Corinthians 15:10).
Now walking confidently in my Godly purpose, I can say that I have been changed from the inside out to manifest God’s intended destiny for me. Sharing my Godly insights for healing satisfies my sense of belonging while fulfilling my accountability to humanity.
My call to purpose: I once rented a beautiful loft in Colorado, for a few transformative years following my divorce. Reclined on my private rooftop patio one evening, I lay there in my pjs puffing on my cigarette delighted by the stunning display of BRIGHT stars against the black velvet sky. Unexpectedly, I heard clearly, intently, but matter-of-factly, “People’s belief systems are determined by writers, that’s why I need Godly writers.” Not only was I gobsmacked, but I was God smacked! My eyes misted with conviction as I cried, “Yes!” From my gut I said “YES!” surrendering to what I’d been avoiding, realizing that purpose is not an option; it’s your life, it’s who you are and it’s what you were created to do—to be authentically you. It then took me three years of preparation. Patience is imperative for manifestation!
a recent testimony
During a weekend women’s retreat, almost 2 years ago, I had a spiritual experience that shattered the walls intended to protect my heart. Those same walls had held me captive from achieving my purpose. On the last day of the retreat, during the morning conference, as if a dam had broken, a guttural cry escaped from my throat as years of bottled up tears leapt from my eyes. Disregarding my resistance and shame, the Deliverer had come.
Trapped in my seat by a circle of fawning, female empaths, I had no choice but to publicly release the roar from within me as those virtuous women wept in recognition of my pain. If I’d had my way I would’ve run into the bathroom to manifest in private, alone. But God knew that I needed the corporate prayer, skillful counsel, and Holy Spirit’s guidance through my sisters, to surrender to my deliverance. This is the benefit of the church—the unified body of believers —not the building, but the body of Christ.
Days later, I was still unsettled and embarrassed by my show of vulnerability. But showing up for a weekly prayer breakfast, my deliverance was addressed by a young wife and mother who had attended the conference. She tearfully entreated me, “MJ, every woman in that room wishes she could have done what you had the courage to do,” to be free! She stated that their attention on me represented their “standing ovation” and not their pity. She said that what I went through was the highlight of the conference because it demonstrated the work of the Holy Spirit that had been declared by every speaker who presented on that weekend of the Fierce women’s conference. God affirmed me that day, through her. Again, it was through the church that my strength was renewed to be where I am today. This quickly led to my ability to share the tormenting secrets of my past in a safe, Christian counseling environment. It is what enabled and encouraged me to use my life to help others to be set free.
For days after the conference, as my heart was being massaged by an unseen hand, cleansing tears leaked from my eyes. I leaked while brushing my teeth, while drinking my coffee, while washing my dishes, while merely being still—I leaked until I leaked no more…
I saw myself as a girl ejected from the depths of the ocean’s floor. There I was, left doggie-paddling, fatiguing while waiting to be rescued. With nothing but water to see for miles, I knew I needed help to shore, and I believed it would come. Just as manifested purpose comes only after transformation, so does healing come only after deliverance. Think of a splinter being removed from an infected site. After the removal of the splinter, a good cleansing, and the application of an anti-microbial to kill the infection, healing can begin. Scar or no scar left behind, the healing can then be completed.
Gratefully, after attending my sessions of post deliverance counseling, I was restored to terra firma. My legs back up under me, I took my first steps to destiny, armed with Godly purpose.
Having been empowered to empower others, I comprehended that God had called me to minister healing through my writings and teachings, this time forging ahead—no fear, no doubt, no procrastination—as my purpose had been born. The joy, focus, and liberty that I move in, in Christ’s strength, is too good not to share with all who will receive (Acts 17:28).
“He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us” (2 Corinthians 1:4, NLT).
Had I not made it out I wouldn’t be able to help others out. Had I not gone through my transformation I would not have reached my manifestation. I once asked, “Lord, why did I have to go through so much?” Holy Spirit replied, “The operative word is ‘through.’ You went through because I was with you. But there are those who are stuck and cannot come through unless they’re pulled out by a strong arm.” I’ve come through some of what many are stuck in. My assignment is to reach back to help them out. If this is you, you will benefit greatly from my inspired writings and teachings.
My books and blogs will challenge you to live your life affirmed (LYLA)! By the unlimited, ineffable love of your Creator you can do exactly what he created you to do. You belong here on earth. We all need your contribution to the collective.
Embracing God’s approval and affirmation will fill you with the boldness you need to use your life. It will mobilize you for success. Through comprehending God’s pre-approval of your life—amid billions—you will live a life that pulsates with purpose, realizing that it is your intended destiny!
MY WRITING ACCOMPLISHMENTS
I’m proud to have won a cash prize and local recognition for my award winning fiction Making Heaven My Home (MHMH). It candidly depicts the mid-1970s coming of age of Raina Reonne. The abuses, struggles, and getting back to health of this troubled woman is demonstrated from her teen years into her adulthood. The book illustrates Raina’s journey before, during, and after being raised in a cult-like church environment. Embittered, and rightly so, she runs away from the church and her immediate family at just 15 years old, after ten years of indoctrination. Commencing a street life of self-abuse and self-sabotage, she expresses her rage, enhanced by alcohol and drug use. Seventeen years later, via a supernatural encounter, the morning after a drug binge, Raina learns that she can have the joy of heaven right here on earth. Thereafter begins her courageous journey to make heaven her home by making her heart a home for Jesus. Rising up like a phoenix from the ashes, she soars victoriously over the ruins of her past.
My revision of MHMH will be in print this year, Fall 2021, for purchase! SUBSCRIBE HERE FOR UPDATES AND PRE-ORDER INFORMATION. You may follow and check in on my social media @the_gospel_tea on Instagram and at facebook.com/falconsvision/ for updates as well. Purchases will be made here through your subscription at Living Affirmed.
Living Affirmed: Walking Confidently in Your Divine Purpose is my next book project under production. It will halt your frustration and confusion about purpose, success, and destiny. On the heels of Making Heaven My Home, you will be equipped with the tools to live affirmed of who you are despite feelings of shame, guilt, rejection, betrayal, anger, apathy, or fear. Those of you seeking purpose will be transformed by the turn of the last page.
Included with the 10 chapters illustrating my personal God encounters are 10 Activation Prayers and 10 Journal Time prompts. “Anticipation is the ability to see the future and respond to it.” You will be renewed and inspired to anticipate your destiny as you live your life on purpose. You will learn to maintain your peace and sobriety, even amid the uncertain times in life.
My years of working with children, youth, adults, and the elderly, in both Christian and secular counseling, have birthed an advocates heart in me. My passion is to see people healed of the lingering wounds associated with past abuses and failures, to become the successes they were created to be.
In Living Affirmed, I share God’s unique definitions of success, purpose, and destiny, and how to obtain all three. My mission is to help those of you who are stuck in existing mode knowing that there’s more to life in the thriving mode. Like Raina Reonne, you too can soar. You can be free to live your life affirmed (LYLA)! Living Affirmed means to live deliberately, making no apologies for your Godly intentions, knowing that you were created to manifest purpose. It is with your dogged determination within the protection and approval of God’s fervent love that you will succeed in reaching your destiny. It may take sabbaticals of “selfish” times to administer the best self-care you could ever enjoy—times of refreshing in your intimate encounters with God.
Poetry: I am also proud to have won honorable mention for my first poem entitled “Red Dirt.” It expresses the amalgamation of my southern and northern heritage, my collegiate experiences, and my spiritual beliefs. Although there was no category for it, I submitted it on a whim and it was lauded in my local newspaper as simply, “Powerful!” I’ve recently submitted more poetry to a greeting card company for publication. God’s will be done!
I welcome you to grow with me on this journey as often as you will join me in this space. LYLA!
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