Welcome to my blogs! I’m so happy you’re here. I am Mary-Jeanette Smith. I go by MJ. I write, counsel, and speak.

Let’s face it, we all want to be loved and accepted. My journey has culminated in my answering the call to inspire others to discover their purpose. This satisfies my sense of belonging, while fulfilling my need for accountability to humanity. Before I got here, the painful moments of my past had left me with warped beliefs about my future, including doubts that I could be of help to anyone. But here I am!

My testimony

During a weekend women’s retreat, less than 2 years ago, I had a spiritual experience that shattered the walls intended to protect my heart. Those same walls had held me captive from achieving my purpose. On the last day of the retreat, during the morning conference, as if a dam had broken, a guttural cry escaped from my chest as years of bottled up tears leapt from my eyes. Disregarding my resistance and shame, the Deliverer had come.

Trapped in my seat by a circle of fawning, female empaths, I had no choice but to publicly release the roar from within me as those virtuous women wept their recognition of my pain.

That show of vulnerability, which caused me to feel embarrassed, was later addressed by a young wife and mother who had attended the conference. She tearfully entreated me, stating, “MJ, every woman in that room wishes she could have done what you had the courage to do,” to be free! God affirmed me, through her, which led to my ability to share the untold secrets of my past, in a safe setting, later using my life to help others to be free.

Meanwhile, for days afterwards, as my heart was being massaged by an unseen hand, cleansing tears leaked continuously from my eyes. I leaked while brushing my teeth, while drinking my coffee, while washing my dishes, and while being still—I leaked until I leaked no more…

I saw myself as a girl ejected from the depths of the ocean’s floor. There I was left doggie-paddling, fatiguing, waiting to be rescued. With nothing but water to see for miles, I knew I needed help to shore.


Gratefully, after attending a series of 4 hours of post deliverance counseling sessions, I was restored to terra firma. My legs back up under me, I took my first steps to destiny, armed with purpose!

Having been empowered to empower others, I realized that God had called me to minister healing through my writing. “He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us” (2 Corinthians 1:4, NLT). Had I not made it out I wouldn’t be able to help others out. I said, “Lord, why did I have to go through so much?” Holy Spirit replied, “You went through because I was with you. But there are those who are stuck and cannot come out unless they’re pulled out with a strong arm.” I’ve been through what many are stuck in. My calling is to reach back to help them out. If that’s you, you will benefit from my writings.

My blogs, here, will challenge you to live your life affirmed by the unlimited, ineffable love of your Creator. You belong here on earth. We all need your contribution to the collective. Living Affirmed means to live deliberately, making no apologies for your intentionality, knowing that you were created for purpose. It is dogged determination within the protection and approval of God’s fervent love for you. It may take several, “selfish” times of the best self care you could ever indulge in—times of necessary and intimate encounters with God alone.

Embracing your Creator’s approval and affirmation will fill you with the boldness you need to use your life. It will motivate you to success. Through comprehending God’s pre-approval of your life—amid billions—you will live a life that pulsates with purpose!


I’m proud to have won a cash award and recognition for my fictional essay Making Heaven My Home. It candidly depicts the mid-1970s coming of age of Raina Reonne, illustrating her experience of being raised in a cult-like religious group and the years of her embittered life that followed. It will be in print soon for purchase! Check in at the_gospel_tea on Instagram, Behind the Scenes with MJ on FB, or here at Living Affirmed (mjeanettesmith.com) for updates.

Raina escapes the “church,” after 10 years of indoctrination, to live on her own at just 15 years old. She commences a street life of self-abuse and self-sabotage, expressing the rage enhanced by her alcohol and drug use. Nevertheless, via a supernatural, divine encounter, 17 years later, Raina rises like a phoenix from the ashes, soaring over the ruins of her past. 

I am also proud to have won honorable mention for my first, one page poem entitled Red Dirt. It expresses the amalgamation of my southern and northern heritage, my collegiate experiences, and my spiritual beliefs. Although there was no category for it, I submitted it on a whim and it was lauded in my local newspaper as simply, “Powerful!” 

Living Affirmed: Walking Confidently in Your Divine Purpose is my current book project that will halt purpose seekers’ frustration and confusion about purpose, success, and destiny. Readers will be equipped with the tools to live affirmed of who they are despite their feelings of shame, guilt, rejection, betrayal, anger, apathy, or fear. Those seeking purpose will be transformed by the turn of the last page.

Included with the deeply personal stories of my God encounters are 10 Activation Prayers and 10 Journal Time prompts. Readers will be renewed and inspired to anticipate their destinies—”anticipation is the ability to see the future and respond to it.” They will learn to attain peace and sobriety, even amid the uncertain times of life.

My years of working with children, youth, adults, and the elderly, in both Christian and secular counseling, have birthed an advocates heart in me. My passion is to see people healed of the lingering wounds associated with past abuses and failures, to become the successes they were created to be.

In Living Affirmed, I share God’s unique definitions of success, purpose, and destiny, and how to obtain all three. My mission is to help those of you who are stuck in survival mode knowing there’s more to life. Like Raina Reonne, you too can soar. You can be free to live your life affirmed.

I welcome you to grow with me on this journey of life as often as you will join me in this space. LYLA!

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