Hello! I am M. J. Smith, a writer, counselor, and speaker. Welcome to my blogs. Bless you for reading!

Let’s face it, we all want to be loved and accepted. And we all have a story. Mine includes a past of some major disappointments from my childhood, including multiple abuses, later climaxing in a harrowing divorce that almost ended my life. Unknown to me, on a conscious level, those moments in my life had left me with some warped beliefs about my future.

During a more recent women’s conference, I had a supernatural experience that shattered the walls that were built up around my heart—the walls that had held me hostage from my destiny. As if a dam had broken, a guttural cry escaped from my chest, as years of bottled-up tears spilled from my eyes. Disregarding my resistance and shame, the Deliverer had come. Blocked in my seat by a group of fawning empaths, I had no choice but to release the roar from within me as those virtuous women wept in recognition of my pain.

As my heart was massaged by an unseen hand, tears of defeat, fear, shock, and hurt leaked from my tear ducts for days afterwards. While brushing my teeth, while drinking my coffee, while washing my dishes… I leaked.

I saw myself as a girl ejected from the depths of the ocean’s floor. There I was left doggie-paddling on the water’s surface, waiting to be rescued. With nothing but water to see for miles, I knew I needed help to shore.


After 4 hours of post deliverance counseling sessions, I was restored to dry land. My legs up under me again, I took my first steps to destiny, armed with my purpose.

Having now been empowered to empower, I realize that although it’s true that hurting people hurt people, it’s also true that healing people heal people. My blogs challenge you to live your life affirmed by a love that knows no limits—the ineffable love of your Creator. Living Affirmed means to live deliberately, making no apologies for your existence. You belong here.

Receiving your Creator’s affirmation will fill you with the boldness you need to use your life. It both motivates and protects. Through comprehending God’s pre-approval of your life–amid billions–you will live a life that pulsates with purpose.


I’m proud to have won an award for my fictional novelette Making Heaven My Home. It candidly depicts the 1970s coming of age of Raina Reonne. It discusses a teenage girl’s experiences while being raised in a cult-like religious group.

Raina escapes at 15 years old, commencing a life of self-abuse through alcohol and drug use. By divine intervention, 17 years later, Raina rises as a phoenix from the ashes, soaring over the ravages of her past. 

I am also proud to have won honorable mention for my first poem entitled Red Dirt. It expresses the amalgamation of my heritage, collegiate experiences, and spiritual beliefs. It was lauded in my local newspaper as simply “Powerful!” 


Here, through my blog posts, I share the tools that I use for both the inner and outer challenges that we all face in life. I communicate the life lessons that have taught me to thrive, including the “bridges” I’ve crossed to the unknown. My faith motto is LYLA! Live Your Life Affirmed!

Living Affirmed: It’s Your Right and Responsibility is my current book project that will halt purpose seekers’ frustration and confusion about purpose, success, and destiny. Readers mobilized and equipped to live purposefully, despite feelings of shame, guilt, rejection, betrayal, anger, anxiety, and fear will be transformed by the turn of the last page. They will learn to utilize the power of Activation Prayers and Journal Time, included, to anticipate their destinies—to force universal compliance. They will learn to maintain peace and sobriety, even amid uncertain times in life.

My personal experiences and years working with children, youth, adults, and the elderly, in both Christian and secular counseling, have birthed advocacy from within me. My passion is to see people healed of the lingering wounds associated with past abuses and failures.

My mission is to help those of you who are stuck in survival mode. Like Raina Reonne, you too can soar. You can be free to live your life affirmed.

I welcome you to grow with me on this journey of life as often as you will join me in this safe space. LYLA!

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